I’d like to support you and be on your side for this but have you read what you’ve been writing?
While you were happily packing your bags for your make up sex tonight, did you stop and think for a minute? Things like this are precisely why guys get away with this type of shit. They know that girls are weak, will lay down, and get over it. Do think that if you did this to him that he would welcome you back with open arms? I doubt it, very much. I am sure the conversation go something like this “fuck you, you dumped me”
When someone loves you, they do not hurt you. More importantly, they will do what is in their power to prevent hurt. While you were planning your future, picking out the names for your kids… Guess what he was doing? Thinking about dumping you and deciding what to say, when to say it, and most importantly…. “how is the best way I can end the conversation so I don’t have to sit and listen to you crying?” Because he DOES NOT WANT to be in a relationship with you.

Real break ups don’t come without thought, contemplation, and time. Time to sit and feel if this is what he wants. Then having the agonizing debate about if this is temporary or if there is truly a lack of desire to remain in this relationship.
Guess what? It is usual the latter. And guess what? How about this for Sex and the City quotes… “He is just not that into you….” and wanna know why…. because if he loved you he wouldn’t have dumped you. When did you ever learn the key for a successful marriage and future is surviving your break up with each other???

As long as girls continue to spend the night with ex-boyfriends when they ask us, let our hearts be mended with objects, and continue to be doormats that is all we will ever be. We will continue to get thoughtless break ups, because come on, what’s the consequence?

I have been hurt. I have had those blows that knock the wind out of you and make you feel completely helpless. I know your hurt. I guess you let me down. Despite not knowing you, I was on your side mostly because we are girls. I had the utmost faith that you would show your readers the strong side of a woman. It’s not easy being strong. It often feels as if standing up for yourself is impossible but unless if you try you have not accomplished anything.
This temporary fix is just a patch on a tire. Guess what happens when you patch a tire? The air will eventually leak out because the integrity of the tire has been broken.
My advice for you… Don’t call off on sunday. You will lose your OT, your bonus, 12 hrs of work, and most importantly your dignity. The money that you make from that shift will probably be more useful than the words or actions from this guy.

By Chip on the ol' shoulder on 05.01.08 11:22 pm | Permalink

AMEN sister!! AAA-MEN!

By LALA on 05.02.08 3:06 pm | Permalink

We’ve all made mistakes in our lives, that’s how we live and grow as individuals. I don’t think Jen’s here to stand up for all women-kind, she’s here to post her journey — good and bad. It’s her life, her decisions. Not that I’m not applauding your wonderfully-written comment, because I agree, she should kick him to the curb — but maybe, just maybe it will work out. And she needs to investigate that possibility for her own peace of mind.

By lisamechelle on 05.06.08 7:38 am | Permalink